Happy ordination anniversary to me!

Today marks the seventh anniversary of my ordination with Universal Life Church, The Monastery.  I was approached once by some friends about officiating their wedding ceremony.  They were running into some pushback from some local ministers about their same-sex marriage so they were putting feelers out to friends and family as a back up plan.  After some reflection and research I decided to take out credentials so I could marry them if they needed me to.  This ordination is completely legal in California, and in many other states, and affords me the right to officiate a wedding and sign county clerk marriage certificates.

If you, or anyone else you know, is having trouble getting a minister to officiate their wedding send them my way.  Some folks I know don’t even belong to a specific church or denomination but still want to have a churchy or more traditional ceremony.  I’m happy to sit down and talk with anyone about how I might help.  I even have access to a very nice event space if you want to have the ceremony there, or perhaps the reception. You can leave a comment on this post or drop me a note on our Contact page.

Harvey Milk Day is May 22nd

This Friday is one of my favorite days of the year as an out and proud gay man in the great state of sunny California! Harvey Milk Day is a special commemorated day in the Golden State celebrating and honoring the life and political career of one of the most iconic gay activists in our state’s history: Harvey Bernard Milk. I found this from the Gay Straight Alliance website:

Harvey Milk was an activist, organizer, and the first openly gay man elected to public office in the country as a member of the San Francisco Board of Supervisors in the late 1970s. Harvey Milk came out and started organizing against discrimination of gay and lesbian business owners in the Castro District of San Francisco, and against the Briggs Initiative (this was an initiative on the California state ballot in 1978 that would have banned gays and lesbians from working in California schools). Milk was responsible for passing gay rights ordinances for the city of San Francisco and served eleven months in office before he was assassinated on November 27, 1978, along with San Francisco Mayor George Moscone. We celebrate Harvey Milk Day on his birthday, May 22.


You can read more about Harvey Milk Day on the GSA Network website here.

Harvey Milk was to the gay rights movement every bit what Martin Luther King was to the civil rights era. He bucked the conventional wisdom in the 1970’s that an openly gay man could not and would not win an election to public office. Harvey believed with every ounce of his being that coming out of the closet and living an open and honest life was the only way to ensure the cause of equality would advance. His signature campaign theme of “you’ve got to give them hope” became the mantra of his generation. Harvey also believed that while helping politicians who were sympathetic to our community was beneficial it would always better for gay and lesbian leaders to seek and win public office. Harvey Milk was assassinated, along with then city mayor George Moscone, soon after taking office.

Harvey Milk was also the political leader that I focused on for my graduate thesis when I was pursuing my M.A. in Communication. Harvey Milk was a trail blazer and pioneer that advanced the community and the cause of equality years into the future of politics. His groundbreaking campaigns and unapologetic ideologies sent shockwaves through our state and the nation. While his life and political career were cut short his legacy has survived and thrived decades later. School lessons and public events won’t pan out this year, obviously, due to the pandemic and sheltering in orders up and down the state but this is still a great time to raise awareness and reflect on the life a great leader in the fight for gay rights.

Amen and so say we all. 🙂

We are not profit

One of my most favorite public service organizations is Tobacco Free California. They have been diligently and effectively working for years to rid our state of the atrocity that is smoking. Here is a hard-hitting message about menthol cigarettes and their targeted effect on African American communities.

For too long Big Tobacco has been strategically killing the Black community with menthol cigarettes. It’s time to make things right. We already know they hang more ads in black neighborhoods, and offer more discounts in those local stores. But here’s what you may not know – Big Tobacco is co-opting Black community voices to keep these deadly products on the market by exploiting issues that truly matter to our community, all so they can protect their bottom line.